Sunday, April 25, 2010


And now I feel like talking about something that people always seem to associate with me. An aversion to marriage.

Now, I haven't made up my mind about what exactly my views on marriage are. I am not one of those free-wheeling hippie types who is completely against the entire concept. I'm not one of those straight-laced pro-marriage campaigners either.

I think I'm somewhere in between. I dislike the entire concept of needing a piece of paper to validate your relationship. I dislike the fact that the word marriage keeps two unhappy people together only because they're "married". I dislike how you HAVE to carry on being unhappy because you have to uphold the vows you might have believed in at some point in the past but don't anymore.

But I do believe that happy marriages are possible. They might be one in a million or like a needle in a haystack but they're there. And I also believe that there those few who want to get married not for the validation, but because they want to and they believe it'll last (little do they know).

But I do believe in fidelity and loyalty. I don't like "I'm bored" so I'll leave. I need more concrete reasons. I don't like those who say "I believe in long-term but I don't think I can stay loyal". Watte contradiction I say.

Well, that's that. I have had this argument, sorry discussion, with different people. And I have heard a lot of different opinions. It's interesting to think of. Hmm. I still remain without any clear side to the issue. A wise person has said - I would like a wedding, not a marriage. I might agree :D


Amit upadhyaya said...

I would like a wedding, not a marriage. I might agree !!
well said

Ayesha said...

Thank you :)

varsha suman said...

stay with your previous opinions... way better than believing in "happily ever afters" and being disappointed. marriage sucks unless you are hopelessly in love... in which case its apparently okay... until one day you wake up and realize that he really wasn't worth the whole stupid ceremony. better be unhappy alone than pretend to be happy with some annoying guy. but this is just my opinion. will discuss this in person sometime. good one ayesha.

Ayesha said...

@ varsha - I'm looking forward to that conversation :)

L.a.l.i.t.a D.h.a.n.v.a.d.a said...

The intelligent person who said that was Salman Rushdie I think :-)
And I quite agree with him! +1 to him on that.
Btw, great piece of writing babe!

Ayesha said...

@ lalithakka - I saw it on facebook flair I think :) And thank you :D

Sameer said...

marry me.

Ayesha said...

@ sameer - :)